The Second Time Through!

We went on a spur of the moment trip to Washington D.C. over Easter weekend to attend The White House Easter Egg Roll event. We, of course, did all the sight-seeing that we could do in 2 days. We visited all the monuments and memorials and when we went through the Franklin Roosevelt Memorial the first time, Liam did not want to participate in picture taking or see the statues up close. So we went through and saw the whole memorial and then we turned around and went back through but this time Liam was excited to participate and lok at all the statues and touch them. The first time through was like a trial run for him to see what it was and the second time through he was comfortable and enjoyed himself.

Accomplishments by the many!!!

We visited old family friends that Liam has never met and he had a ball! He let them pick him up, take his shoes off, and help him swing without any hesitation! His whole attitude was carefree and his personality is really shining through these last 6 weeks. I can't believe how flexible he was during this trip with no routine and nothing was familiar. He smiled and laughed the whole time! He chased a goat, went swinging, and jumped on a trampoline without any second thoughts or without hesitating. All of this progress is really amazing and just a dream come true. He is open to knew things and to having fun like a little boy should! I'm so proud at his accomplishments and he is now undressing ALL BY HIMSELF! He can take socks off, and pants and shirts...it's unbelievable that last week he struggled for an hour with his sock! Now he's a professional!

Gluten Free/Casein Free Diet (GFCF Diet)

When I first heard about this diet I didn't think it was very 'do-able' for us because Liam's main diet is very limited, and wouldn't you know that it all contains wheat and/or dairy. But then a friend, who also has a child with Asperger's Syndrome, told me about a book called Healing the New Childhood Epidemics: Autism, ADHD, Asthma, and Allergies: The Groundbreaking Program for the 4-A Disorders by Kenneth Bock, Cameron Stauth. Reading this book, that is full of scientific reasons and explanations for the sudden 'outbreak' of Autism, really has me thinking. I have seen improvement with Liam since he's attended Preschool and with our Reward System in place. But what if by changing his diet he can conscentrate a little more, improve his repetitive behaviors, make his speech a little clearer, and maybe even rid him of his nummular eczema and his inflamation on his cheeks. I feel that if I can help him in any way then why not try it?! I have started to switch him over to gluten free cookies (with no complaints) and I'm gradually going to introduce more gluten free products and then hopefully after the break in his school schedule in March then I can send him to school with his own lunches. Atleast there's more choices in the stores for buying gluten free/casein free foods. I have bought gluten/casein free breakfast bars, cookies, noodles, and whole grain bread mix. The thing that will be the hardest for him is his love for cheese! I'm hoping that with this new exploration in food choices that he will be more open to foods and maybe helping his symptoms and giving him a better life. Liam has gone from being bogged down with such emotion that he was hurting, to being free and acting like a kid should. We go through a pattern of 2 weeks of a 'normal' acting kid to 3 weeks of an emotionally tortured kid. I am trying my hardest to have that silly, imaginitive, smart kid come out and play every day!

Our Reward Techniques.

The Happy Face Tokens...

Whenever Liam expresses good manners, such as 'Please', 'Thank you' or 'excuse me', he receives a happy face token and when he collects 6 tokens then he can buy a car. He usually reaches his 6 tokens by the weekend. This really encourages good behavior and manners without having to remind him much.

The Ribbons...

Liam gets a ribbon every time he accomplishes something new or does something by himself. I write down his accomplishment and he gets to stick it up and when he reaches 5 ribbons (hopefully by Monday) then he gets to take it to school and share with the class.

The Stocking...

This is to encourage daily routines such as brush teeth, bath time, but it's mainly used for potty time. I made cards with pictures of the act that I want him to do and then I put it in his stocking when it's time to do something and I say, "Go check your stocking!" and he will pull out a card and then he will go do what the card says and when he comes back then I have a reward waiting for him inside the stocking, like a Hershey kiss, a sweetheart, or some little candy reward, for doing his task. This helps when he doesn't want to take orders directly from me and so I make a card up and put it in there and he will follow it without arguing.

I really try to think of new reward techniques so that he is always looking forward to his praise and rewards. He really appreciates positive reinforcement now. I used to try to give him a candy or sticker and he would freak out and have a melt-down over a reward. Now he understands and the stocking has made him look forward to surprises because he doesn't know what he will get. Surprises were hard for Liam to handle but this has helped him understand that surprises are good and are suppose to make you feel happy and excited. I just hope I can keep the ideas going so I can change it up and keep his interest because we are on a roll!

"I can ride my motorcycle!"

Liam finally got the hang of his tricycle! He was so proud of himself! He has had trouble
trying to figure out how to peddle and get himself going and keep going. He also learned, the very next day, how to turn the tricycle. He has learned how to catch a ball, jump with both legs off the floor, and ride a tricycle all in this year, mostly because of the influence of pre-school and his teacher. In this photo he has the happiest face I have ever seen in a year and a half. He is finally living in the moment and he has let go of his "inner-struggle" with himself. Adrian will be so shocked at how far Liam has come in this past year. He has really begun to show more confidence and carefree personality, not anxious or overwhelmed at all. He will let me praise him and not get upset. He used to get mad and have melt-downs every time I would praise him or give him any positive reinforcement. Now he seeks out praise and is proud of himself. Learning to ride the tricycle is a huge accomplishment for Liam, I'm so proud of him and how much progress he has made.

Inappropriate Play...working progress...

I have constant eyes on how Liam plays with Gwyn. I have a camera in his room that has a portable monitor so I can see what he is doing at all times. Now that Gwyn is older and into more things, I have to know what they are doing. Liam doesn't know how to play with Gwyn yet. His usual behavior with her is to get in her face and yell "aaahhh" in her face (like in this picture) and then flap his hands around. He doesn't know that he can't sit on her like a chair or step on her like a stool. He has no knowledge that he can hurt her and he doesn't care when she cries. AS children have no empathy for others and they fail to make the distinction between accidental and deliberate acts. When Gwyn touches his shoulder he yells at her and tells me "Tell her NO! She hit me!" I have to always remind him that it was an accident but he will repeat it over and over until you acknowledge his complaint and talk to Gwyn about not hitting. The one moment I didn't have an eye on them he ended up pushing her down and she bit straight through her lip, making a scar, all because she was touching his chair and that was the only way he knew to respond. He wasn't angry with her, he was just solving a problem. We are still working on this behavior just by reinforcing good behavior when he is being appropriate and letting him know when he is inappropriate. He gets a happy face token whenever he displays good behavior and if he collects 7 by the end of the week he gets to buy a car...his favorite "special interest".

Daddy Larry and Little Daddy Larry.

We went to the Zoo with Nana and Daddy Larry. The excitement of all the animals and the outdoors was plenty of excitement for all the children, except for Liam. Liam was more interested in copying Daddy Larry's walk, stride, pace, and movement. Only Daddy Larry could talk to Liam the whole time, if I suggested anything it was shot down quickly and almost resulted in a melt-down. Daddy Larry would suggest the same thing and he would quietly go along with it. It was amazing to see how intent Liam was on watching Daddy Larry's feet and arms and how well he mimicked the motion, and kept in stride with him. I later found out, in Tony Attwood's book, that AS children are great mimics, and portray themselves as the other person. This is why Liam would just stare and watch children play for hours (4 hours at childcare) but would not have any intention in participating because in his mind he was participating through the other children. It was very interesting to read that AS children play through other children, while they don't physically play along, they imagine themselves as the other children. This was almost calming for Liam to concentrate on walking and acting like Daddy Larry, he didn't talk or say a word the whole time he was mimicking. If you notice in the top right photo that he sits there with a serious face and is avoiding the camera, he was in his mimic mode and can't stop and pose for a picture.